Owning Your Life

Let us face it, among the crowd, certain human specimens have never lived a true life, never experienced close proximity to people and other living creatures, never created a world in cooperation with the others, perhaps because there was no need for them to do otherwise, and yet, they have missed out on a lot of things they might have not even suspected existed. They do not own their lives living more like parasites that need continuous support and leech off the others to move through life. How did it come to this? What made them develop the ways of behaving like this? Perhaps early experience taught them that having people do things for them would be the best way to deal with life or when life became simply unbearable they would become clingy to survive? And yet there must be a moment when you need to own your life finally and claim it as your own and no other’s. How can that be done?

Own It 100%

Several issues need to be addressed here, in particular the question of independence. In today’s world, and in relationships, we tend to rely on each other, but when imbalance occurs, some of us could feel overwhelmed with the other’s unmet needs. If you are young and independent what else do you really need if you can virtually raise a baby on your own, and you do not need anything to be happy unless some company, which could be your friends in the end and yourself. That would partly explain a growing number of single people who do not wish to be bothered by someone else’s needs and wishes and instead live without their children that have already abandoned their nests or give up on having a family of their own, filling that void with more friends, trips or books. They own their lives in no less than 100%, making their own choices and paying the price accordingly. When living a single life you could hardly guess if you would be good husband or wife material as you have barely tasted what it feels like and what your character is like. Can living on your own improve it or does it take another person so that you can see yourself in the mirror with your warts and all, and develop those aspects of your personality that are in their infancy. That is right, some of us are somehow developmentally delayed in terms of emotions and maturity, which is also the reason people choose a singular life, as they expect less hurt and no need to explain their actions and their motives. In a way that makes it easier, on the other, the price tag shows quite a high number if you happen to live without the company of friends. Is it a life worth living? It is just a different kind of life, an alternative take on life, as good as any other, despite the claims made by researchers that loners’ lives are much shorter. Who really cares about that?

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